Being Asian, But Not Identifying With It
Fran:“I’m Black.”“Really? Are you mixed with something?”I get this response a lot when people ask me what I am and I’m prepared for this follow-up question. It’s kind of crazy that people you don’t even know can challenge you on your identity. Sometimes if I don’t feel mentally prepared…
I could not be more excited to share Francesca and Nelli’s Catholic and Hindu fusion wedding experience. I actually found Francesca on Instagram and admittedly slid into her DMs as soon as I saw pictures of her gorgeous fusion wedding.
Wow….I can’t believe we are exactly 100 days till our wedding…we are entering the double digit countdown ahhh!! It seems like it was just last April when we got engaged and we thought we had all the time in the world. This past year or so, wedding planning has taught me so much about myself, Nelli, and how we work together as a team. It’s been challenging and stressful to plan a wedding (ESPECIALLY a multicultural one) and I didn’t get it before but now I do. Some of the key decisions that we made for our wedding are:
- What’s the definition of FUSION – We wanted ONE ceremony. This was really important to me and Nelli. A lot of fusion weddings have 2 ceremonies to celebrate each culture. I really like that idea and think it’s a good way to incorporate everything but for me personally, it didn’t speak to me. It was important to me to show our close friends and family that we are committed to blending our cultures in our marriage and we were going to showcase that through one ceremony. We got a lot of doubters and I myself am working tirelessly to ensure that the ceremony script is seamless but I have a great feeling that it will turn out beautifully. I think it’s also nice to have one ceremony, because we will be hand pick a few traditions that mean the most to us and have a significant message that we believe in. I also love the fact that me and Nelli are working together to develop a script from scratch so it will truly be unique and represent who we are and what our union represents. Lastly, the officiants will be family members and not priests or pastors and I think this is a great idea to make the overall ceremony more personal.