Being Asian, But Not Identifying With It
Fran:“I’m Black.”“Really? Are you mixed with something?”I get this response a lot when people ask me what I am and I’m prepared for this follow-up question. It’s kind of crazy that people you don’t even know can challenge you on your identity. Sometimes if I don’t feel mentally prepared…
I could not be more excited to share Francesca and Nelli’s Catholic and Hindu fusion wedding experience. I actually found Francesca on Instagram and admittedly slid into her DMs as soon as I saw pictures of her gorgeous fusion wedding.
Hi everyone! This is a long time coming but I really wanted to share our experiences traveling to Cusco Peru for our honeymoon in July.
Top 5 experiences in Peru:
- Hiking Machu Picchu
- Visiting Maras/Moray
- Cusco Culture Day tour – Shops and Restaurants
- Staying at Esplendor Cusco
- Booking our expedition with Alpaca Expeditions
It has always been a top priority to explore South America for 2018 since I had never stepped foot on the continent. Over the past years, I’ve grown fond of hiking and the outdoors so I really wanted to add Machu Picchu to our accomplishments. Since our visit to Peru would be mostly centered around visiting this world wonder, I prioritized finding the best tour company. My main concerns were cost, ratings, and vegetarian options – Nelli has always wanted to go to South America but was nervous about their meat-centered cuisines. I researched many tour companies online through trip advisor and blogs (thank you Snazzy Mom!) and I ultimately settled on Alpaca Expeditions. I’m very happy with my choice – our hiking group was small (5 people), affordable ($550pp), great ratings, extremely knowledgeable/fun tour guide, and had veg options. There was one lunch rice item that had hot dog slices in it which frustrated Nelli but he said overall he would recommend them.
Hi everyone, I wrote an essay for Nikita (blogger at growingupgupta.com) about being biracial and how it will impact my future tri(?)racial family. Let me know your thoughts please 🙂
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Hi everyone, we are coming up on 6 months of married life and so far so good! Sometimes, I feel like we have have been married for longer and when people ask how married life has been I think to myself…the more things change, the more they stay the same.
Today I wanted to talk about a special topic that I have been made acutely aware of since joining Nelli’s family and the interracial community…I’ve always known I was different because of my race(s) and religion but since being married; the values and practices that me and Nelli followed since the beginning of our relationship became more apparent.
I had originally written the title as “Being A Feminist in a Patriarchal Culture” but the more I wrote about my experiences, the more I realized that both me and Nelli are feminists. Nelli is the type of person that says “Hey, I’m going to this women’s march, wanna come with me?” or “Let’s go to this Black Lives Matter Vigil.” Our ideals start at home but we make every effort to not let them stop there. I am truly lucky to be married to such a progressive loving husband 🙂
Happy Sunday everyone!
I just wanted to quickly share our wedding video that we received a couple weeks ago…I absolutely love it! Looking back, it was definitely funny when me and Nelli were working with Fusion Moments on the video. We really struggled to choose a song that represented US – we both wanted something unique but he wanted something Indian inspired and I wanted something representing my African American culture. Not only did we deal with that difference of opinion but we could only choose from a limited song bank our videographers provided. In the end, after much tribulation (not really…hehe) we decided on two songs (thanks to our gracious vendor). Me and my Dad actually danced to the first song and for those who might not know, Nelli is a big Deepika Padukone fanboy…hence the second song! I was kind of sad that none of our Sangeet footage made it in but we have an entirely separate video of that night. Hope you guys enjoy…let me know what you think 🙂
I am also including two website links that featured our wedding and they have some fabulous photos thanks to Nathalie Cheng. One is Seventh Heaven Vintage which is a vendor that we used for our specialty furniture and the other is 100 layer cake. 100 layer cake is a top 5 wedding website so it was such an honor for them to share the beautiful work completed by my wedding planner (Jessica) and wonderful vendors. Please enjoy and have a great rest of your weekend!
Hi everyone, a couple of people have asked me how I blended both cultures into one ceremony. A lot of fusion weddings have two different ceremonies on different days or the same day but as I touched on with previous posts, we decided to have one ceremony with our immediate family as the officiants. Since we didn’t have the expertise of religious officiants to give us the scripts we made our own ceremony which made it even extra special. We researched a lot of things on the internet and took SOME (keyword) advice from our close friends/family. Thank you Google for allowing us to get married haha! And now to pay it forward for other engaged couples, we are happily giving you our ceremony online for you to hopefully enjoy along with some explanations, thought processes, challenges etc.