30 days post our Wedding – Pt. 3

Apparently, there is a word limit on posts so here is Part 3 of my crazy Black/Indian/Filipino wedding weekend.  1 month down…a lifetime to go!

Saturday Recap (Wedding Day!)

We woke up around 8am again for hair and makeup.  All the immediate lady family members went first so I had some more “me time” to relax and write my vows.  I finished my hair, makeup and getting dressed around 1pm and I absolutely loved the way I looked – especially the fresh jasmine in my hair which smelled so good.  I didn’t have too much time to admire myself because I was running an hour late in terms of being at the venue (why I could never be on time for things, I’ll never know!). Once we arrived, I don’t think I caught my breath until the wedding was over – My photographer immediately swept me away for pictures most of the time,  I was busy prepping the jasmine garlands for the baraat, finalizing the song changes with the DJ, writing my vows on a piece of paper and then before I knew it I was walking down the aisle haha.  

I can’t even imagine all the details that Jessica my amazing wedding planner made sure happened prior to the wedding start but I’m sure it was 10x what I did so I would have been super lost without her.  The favorite part of our ceremony was reading my vows – I tried not to cry but I couldn’t help it, I even heard multiple sniffles from the crowd.  Even though the ceremony felt 30 minutes long, it was so memorable! Even the little teeny hiccups I am still smiling about like how the garlands were still in the fridge, or how my sister kept adjusting my veil everytime Nelli put something around my neck or how my vows were considerably longer than Nelli’s or how or when my brother almost got burned from moving the fire holder.  I just hope that when we get our wedding pictures I don’t look like a snotty mess from all the crying I did – it truly was a beautiful ceremony merging all our traditions and everybody else thought so too 🙂 Continue reading “30 days post our Wedding – Pt. 3”

30 Days Post Our Wedding – Pt. 2

Happy 1 month anniversary to me and Nelli HAHA!  This past month flew by but I definitely wanted to take the time to reflect on our wedding and the days leading up to it.  We spent 1 year and 2 months pouring over the details to create a wedding that was truly us and we accomplished that without a doubt.  I promised a part 2 and 3 last time I talked about my wedding at the 100 day mark so here it is 🙂 Continue reading “30 Days Post Our Wedding – Pt. 2”

The road to a BLINDIAN marriage

 

Hi everyone, I just had an amazing experience with my husband and my new friend Aman Kaur.  WE DID A PODCAST EPISODE!  Actually 2!  Nelli and I talked about our experience as a Blindian couple and I’m so glad we got the opportunity.  I am a really big fan of this podcast because it features people that are in interracial Indian marriages! How lovely.  I’ve listened to each episode and it’s so awesome to relate to people and hear how they went through the challenges and joys of being married to an Indian!  Please listen to our episodes below and let me know what you think.  The episode will open in a new window so you don’t need anything else (tech wise) to listen.  Also, click the source to go to  Aman’s website to listen to other amazing stories.

Podcast episode (Part 1)

Podcast episode (Part 2)

Source: Moving forward and on Francesca & Raghav Part 2 – IIM027 | Indian Interracial Marriages Podcast

2nd trip to India – Hubby’s Hometown

I have a travel rule that I never visit the same country twice (except for Costa Rica).  There are a total of 196 countries in the world and I average 2-4 country visits a year.  At this point…well you do the math…I will need to find the fountain of youth in order to accomplish my goal.

However, even if your home is 24 hours away you can’t help but go there yearly or every other year in the case of Nelli who’s hometown is in Manipal India.  I wasn’t really excited to go because we had just been there the year before and because of my on-going issues with his Mom.  In addition, my first trip to India was good but some aspects had turned me off…has there been a country that you didn’t love or is that an ungrateful or rude thing to say?  Each country brings an experience and I know I shouldn’t put my particular one experience as a view of the entire country but I just can’t help the feeling that India isn’t my dream land.  Nelli really wanted me to visit his hometown though so on the account that we would be visiting Sri Lanka as well I agreed to go.

There were a couple of roadblocks en route to going to India.  One is I learned at the last minute that we wouldn’t be traveling to Hampi.  Hampi is probably the most historic and well known tourist site in Karnataka.  I really wanted to take a day trip here but Nelli wanted to prioritize staying as much time at home so I was really bummed about that. Continue reading “2nd trip to India – Hubby’s Hometown”

My Mother comes to town

What is up with all the family visits?  The next big event was my mum coming to town.  Her bff lives in the bay area and it was their high school reunion.  My mom would be staying with me for a couple days before she stayed with her friend.  My family had come to stay with me before…they drove all the way to SF to stay in my comfy little studio.  That was good times.  My mom expected to return to that quaint studio but little did she know that just a couple weeks earlier I had officially moved in with Nelli (gasp…).  I was so nervous on when to tell her that it wasn’t until I had picked her up from the airport and I drove past my old apt’s exit did I have the courage to say that I had moved and had a new “roommate”.  She exclaimed “NELLI?!?!” AND she said it in an excited tone.  This was just the beginning of her surprising reactions.

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Seattle Trip – Meeting Nelli’s Family

This was a pivotal turning point that was months in the planning that I was determined to make…the dreaded meet the parents meet-up.  Except for me the dread was magnified by a billion.  I was going up against a mother who had no idea I was coming (thanks Mr. Nelli and Nelli Jr.!) and was severely depressed ever since the news that her first born son wasn’t with an Indian.  I think I was determined because I wanted to prove that I was here to stay but I was also excited to meet the rest of the family.

What?

Yeah the rest of the family. Brother and Brother’s Wife and Brother’s Wife’s Parents.  Brother and Brother’s wife were excited but they were mainly preoccupied with taking care of the parents and in-laws.  It was the parent’s first trip to the US and the Brother’s wife would be cooking all their meals….damn.  I was getting a feel for the brother’s wife and I was really feeling like I should up my homemaking skills.

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