Happy 1 month anniversary to me and Nelli HAHA! This past month flew by but I definitely wanted to take the time to reflect on our wedding and the days leading up to it. We spent 1 year and 2 months pouring over the details to create a wedding that was truly us and we accomplished that without a doubt. I promised a part 2 and 3 last time I talked about my wedding at the 100 day mark so here it is 🙂 Continue reading “30 Days Post Our Wedding – Pt. 2”
Wow….I can’t believe we are exactly 100 days till our wedding…we are entering the double digit countdown ahhh!! It seems like it was just last April when we got engaged and we thought we had all the time in the world. This past year or so, wedding planning has taught me so much about myself, Nelli, and how we work together as a team. It’s been challenging and stressful to plan a wedding (ESPECIALLY a multicultural one) and I didn’t get it before but now I do. Some of the key decisions that we made for our wedding are:
- What’s the definition of FUSION – We wanted ONE ceremony. This was really important to me and Nelli. A lot of fusion weddings have 2 ceremonies to celebrate each culture. I really like that idea and think it’s a good way to incorporate everything but for me personally, it didn’t speak to me. It was important to me to show our close friends and family that we are committed to blending our cultures in our marriage and we were going to showcase that through one ceremony. We got a lot of doubters and I myself am working tirelessly to ensure that the ceremony script is seamless but I have a great feeling that it will turn out beautifully. I think it’s also nice to have one ceremony, because we will be hand pick a few traditions that mean the most to us and have a significant message that we believe in. I also love the fact that me and Nelli are working together to develop a script from scratch so it will truly be unique and represent who we are and what our union represents. Lastly, the officiants will be family members and not priests or pastors and I think this is a great idea to make the overall ceremony more personal.
Hi everyone, I just had an amazing experience with my husband and my new friend Aman Kaur. WE DID A PODCAST EPISODE! Actually 2! Nelli and I talked about our experience as a Blindian couple and I’m so glad we got the opportunity. I am a really big fan of this podcast because it features people that are in interracial Indian marriages! How lovely. I’ve listened to each episode and it’s so awesome to relate to people and hear how they went through the challenges and joys of being married to an Indian! Please listen to our episodes below and let me know what you think. The episode will open in a new window so you don’t need anything else (tech wise) to listen. Also, click the source to go to Aman’s website to listen to other amazing stories.
2015 was definitely the year of the weddings. We went to 5 weddings across the United States. WOW. I think for the month of October we had one weekend at home and the rest we were flying somewhere for somebody’s nuptials except for my birthday trip to New York (SO much fun!). Me and Nelli didn’t get to do much international trips with the exception of India with all the stateside travel but I have some of the best memories from this year. One wedding was in New Orleans, another in Utah, another in the Carolina, BDAY in New York, oh and I took a girls trip to Mexico!
By now you know Nelli returned home after his 3 month long sabbatical in India. His visa had expired so he would have to return to India until it was renewed. Every day during those months he called me twice a day without fail. A quick morning call before I went to work and then after I came home for work for 1-3 hours. It was amazing to have him back, and I never let him go after that. So when he had to go BACK to India to make his visa automatically renew every 3 years I insisted I go with him. At first he was a little hesitant because his priority was his visa business and he wasn’t sure I would enjoy myself – in the end, I won!
My first trip to India isn’t the typical experience. When most people think of traveling to India, they think of the Taj Mahal and butter chicken. Since Nelli is South Indian, he would have to travel to the South India Capitol for his visa business which is Chennai, Tamil Nadu. I don’t think I have ever heard of South Indian States before I met Nelli. Well anyways, he planned some nice things for us to do in Chennai and then we would be traveling to a neighboring state called Kerala. I wanted to go to New Delhi and have a typical India touristy experience but Nelli insisted we wouldn’t have time. In the end, I’m glad we didn’t because I had a unique experience.
This was a pivotal turning point that was months in the planning that I was determined to make…the dreaded meet the parents meet-up. Except for me the dread was magnified by a billion. I was going up against a mother who had no idea I was coming (thanks Mr. Nelli and Nelli Jr.!) and was severely depressed ever since the news that her first born son wasn’t with an Indian. I think I was determined because I wanted to prove that I was here to stay but I was also excited to meet the rest of the family.
Yeah the rest of the family. Brother and Brother’s Wife and Brother’s Wife’s Parents. Brother and Brother’s wife were excited but they were mainly preoccupied with taking care of the parents and in-laws. It was the parent’s first trip to the US and the Brother’s wife would be cooking all their meals….damn. I was getting a feel for the brother’s wife and I was really feeling like I should up my homemaking skills.
Our first Diwali 2013! We ended up eating at Nelli’s favorite Indian restaurant Dosa in San Francisco. I loved getting dressed up…Nelli first mentioned the idea of getting dresses up in traditional Indian clothing and then he kept on going back and forth. I even had to call dosa and ask for the dress code and promise to drive to SF so we wouldn’t look too out of place. Once the deal was struck we went to about 4 different Indian stores including a grocery store to complete my look. We decided against a saree because it was too last minute to learn how to wear one. The first store had good reviews but I couldn’t find anything I was in love with…a lot of the clothing looked too old school with a lot of beads. We went to another store down the street but the dresses that I was looking for were expensive. The sales lady pointed to me a different option and I chose a black anarkali with fuchsia and gold threading and teal accents…winning! I also got matching bangles and a bindi. Nelli, a self proclaimed saree master, was present and helpful through the entire process and gave me a seal of approval. I was so excited! We looked great! We arrived at the restaurant and I immediately liked the ambiance…dimly lit with warm colors and Indian designs on the wall. The venue even had a dj and free henna tattoo lady. The food was excellent we got the Diwali 3 course meal. I still remembered what I ate: spicy tandoori chicken bites, pumpkin dosa, and a lamb stew! We even got free dessert cause we had to move tables. This was an amazing night.