Visa Woes – The final Chapter (Green Card!)

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I’ve talked A LOT about Nelli’s visa woes on the blog herehere,  here, and here.  Most of the posts are lamenting the time Nelli had to go back to India until his visa was renewed and one post was about me taking my first trip to India to get Nelli’s visa on his passport.  I thought that was the end of our visa woes but I was wrong.  I’m happy to announce that after 5 months on February 10th, 2018 – Nelli became a permanent resident aka received the GREEN CARD. 


This post will detail the 5 months that led up to this since Nelli wanted to keep the process relatively mum to not jinx anything.  We officially submitted all the paperwork on October 11, 2017 – I remember that day because it was my 30th birthday.  The main application is I-130 – which allows an immigrant who is married to a U.S. citizen to apply for permanent residency and ultimately become a citizen themselves.   We officially married on October 28, 2016 to jumpstart this application because Nelli wanted more flexibility in job prospects.  Nelli came to the United States on a Student (F1) visa in 2004 to attend Grad school in Minnesota. He subsequently got an H1B visa in 2007 which means his immigrant status is tied to his employer.  Our official marriage date is a little hard to remember because we consider our anniversary, the day of our wedding – June 24th, 2017.  A lot of dates to keep track of which sort of tripped me up later in the interview process. 

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1st Trip To India and the End of Visa Woes

By now you know Nelli returned home after his 3 month long sabbatical in India.  His visa had expired so he would have to return to India until it was renewed.  Every day during those months he called me twice a day without fail.  A quick morning call before I went to work and then after I came home for work for 1-3 hours.  It was amazing to have him back, and I never let him go after that.  So when he had to go BACK to India to make his visa automatically renew every 3 years I insisted I go with him.  At first he was a little hesitant because his priority was his visa business and he wasn’t sure I would enjoy myself – in the end, I won!

My first trip to India isn’t the typical experience.  When most people think of traveling to India, they think of the Taj Mahal and butter chicken.  Since Nelli is South Indian, he would have to travel to the South India Capitol for his visa business which is Chennai, Tamil Nadu.  I don’t think I have ever heard of South Indian States before I met Nelli.  Well anyways, he planned some nice things for us to do in Chennai and then we would be traveling to a neighboring state called Kerala.  I wanted to go to New Delhi and have a typical India touristy experience but Nelli insisted we wouldn’t have time.  In the end, I’m glad we didn’t because I had a unique experience.

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Visa Woes Pt 2 – Missing my hubby

I miss Nelli so much…it’s been exacty 18 days since I’ve seen Nelli.  It seems like such a small number but it felt like an eternity.  I remember when Nelli would be away on the weekends doing his marathons and that was painful but his absence now feels unbearable. ok, I know I’m sounding dramatic, I’m doing fine lol.  It still sucks.  December was so quiet without him and the slow pace of work didn’t help either. It’s funny because everytime he was away on the weekends I would go back to my apartment but I can’t do that anymore and I just sleep at Nelli’s.  Nelli teases me because I call my apartment a storage unit but it’s true…it doesn’t feel like home anymore.  I didn’t realize that being with Nelli is such an integral part of my life…Luckily, we talk on the phone every day and we recently got google hangouts to work so video chatting makes it a lot easier.  It’s cool to hear Nelli’s stories about his family, the numerous events he goes to, and the food.   Currently, I’m back in San Antonio so the presence of my family really helps too.   I had a few bouts of sadness/agitation but I’m just trying to stay positive and Nelli is doing a good job of calming my insecurties and doubts.  I know that when he comes back our relationship will be so much stronger.

Visa Woes Pt 1 – Sweet Surprises

I had a very eventful day. The past weekend I went to Austin for my brothers graduation and had to leave Monday morning. I woke up at 430 am to catch my flight that was delayed an hour. I had to switch flights because I missed my connection and finally arrived to work at 1pm. Work was absolutely crazy with so much to catch up on that I didn’t leave work till 7pm. I was exhausted, my head hurt, and I was dreading coming home to an empty house because Nelli would already be in India to work on his visa issues. I came into the door and saw flowers and a teddy bear on the table. I loved the message in the card. I am so lucky to have Nelli in my life. He is so good to me. He is everything I want and more. Sometimes I have to pinch myself to make sure I’m not dreaming because I am truly living in a fairy tale. I love him so much ❤